Week 4 in the year of our Lord 2022

Fearfulness, fighting & feminists

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And as for him who lacks the courage to defend even his own soul: Let him not brag of his progressive views, boast of his status as an academician or a recognized artist, a distinguished citizen or general. Let him say to himself plainly: I am cattle, I am a coward, I seek only warmth and to eat my fill. —Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, Live Not By Lies

Cowardice is the sin in which the darkness of our times has taken root.

You might think folly would be our most serious sin—that men today lack wisdom. But this is just another angle on their being cowards:

Only, be strong and very courageous, to observe to do according to all the Law which Moses My servant commanded you; you do not turn aside from it right or left, so that you will act wisely in every place to where you go; the scroll of this Law shall not depart out of your mouth, and you shall meditate in it by day and by night, so that you observe to do according to all that is written in it, for then you cause your way to prosper, and then you act wisely. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous; do not be terrified nor frightened, for your God Yahweh is with you in every place to where you go. (Joshua 1:7-9)

Notice that, as God strictly charges Joshua here, He connects acting bravely, acting wisely, and doing and knowing the Law.

The Bible repeatedly shows us that fear is faithlessness—and conversely, that faith drives out fear. But paradoxically, it also shows us that there is a virtuous kind of fear, a fear of God, which is the beginning of wisdom (Pr 9:10).

This is not a real paradox, but simply another angle on how all of life is worship. A man cannot have two masters, but he always has one. There is always something we fear, there is always something we worship, there is always something we serve.

And what we fear and worship is either futile or fertile. When we fear and worship the creature, rather than the Creator who is blessed forever amen, both our hearts and the deeds which flow from them become dark and vain, foolish and faithless. When we worship the Lord in spirit and truth, he gives us the mind of Christ, wisdom to all who ask sincerely, and grace to walk faithfully in his ways.

This is why what we are seeing in the West today is perhaps the greatest apostasy the world has ever seen. Our cowardice, too, is an act of worship.

Christians like to say, “All your public fighting and arguing will push outsiders away from Christianity. You are being a bad witness.”

Usually this is just code for, “my liberal and moderate-leaning friends would find this distasteful.”

In other words, it’s an “eleventh commandment” violation: “Thou shalt never be unmannerly.”

But “outsiders” are not the monolith that these people imagine. In fact, many (if not most) non-Christians respect someone who stands up for his beliefs, and despise a people-pleaser. Many think we should go harder.

And many of them are put off by how passive and weak most Christians are.

Consider the possibility that we’re driving outsiders away by an unwillingness to mix it up.

As one of our readers remarked:

They want to be accepted by certain “clean” outsiders, not have those outsiders repent and believe.

The “unclean” deplorable outsiders that would respond favorably to straightforward speech and strong assertions of truth are of no concern to them because they have nothing to offer them. They do nothing for their glory and reputation but rather would tarnish, by way of association, the same in the eyes of the esteemed outsiders they simp for.

This is why we see/hear things like “I’m not like those Christians,” “Everyone to the right of me is a fundamentalist,” “You’re making us look bad,” and “The world is watching.”

This testimony is true. It is the psychology behind the ubiquitous habit of Big Eva personalities to punch hard right, and sidle left. It is why they invert Jesus’ method by excoriating the “deplorables,” those whom Jesus had compassion on as sheep without a shepherd, while handling worldly elites with kid gloves, when Jesus pronounced curses upon them.

Who they love is obvious. And who they love reflects who they worship. Their friendship with the world issues in enmity toward God’s people (cf. 1 John 4:20).

The most unforgivable sin in the eyes of many “Christian” feminists is a man and woman happily living out biblical sexuality in a fruitful covenant marriage.

Nothing quite enrages them like that.

This is because feminism, at its base, is deeply, ironically misogynistic.

Misogyny is a hatred of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.

If you adjust one word in this definition, you’ll get a good description of the motives and modus operandi of modern feminists: they have a hatred, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against femininity.

But femininity is womanly nature. It is the creational pattern of being womanly.

To hate femininity is to hate the nature of women. A woman who calls herself a feminist hates her own being.

You see this hatred in the Second Wave writings of Friedan, de Beauvoir, Firestone, and Steinem. There is an unvarnished animosity towards being a wife, a mother, and a keeper of the home. This is not to say that they are against marriage and motherhood in all forms. But they reject the historical, biblical, natural view of marriage and parental duties.

Their most intense hatred is aimed at women being keepers of their homes.

All of this is aptly captured in Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique. She writes:

As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night—she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question—“Is this all?”

…And finally there is the problem that has no name, a vague undefined wish for “something more” than washing dishes, ironing, punishing and praising the children.

Now, we are on record as being no fans of the 1950s reductive household—or at least its depiction in popular media. Proverbs 31 presents neither a stereotypical 1950s housewife, nor a career woman. It shows that the biblical concept of a household is one full of life, and buzzing productivity. It is a place where the full range of a woman’s talents and abilities can be expressed. It’s something we need to work hard to recover in a post-industrial age—and not by role-playing Little House on the Prairie.

But we digress. The thing to see here is that feminists generally framed (and continue to frame) marriage, motherhood, and keeping the home as drudgery. It’s a waste of a woman’s early life.

Worse, it is framed as a trap that turns into a prison. Young women enter into this arrangement under dreamy delusions or false premises, only to find it to be a miserable life.

And so feminists think that only a deluded or oppressed women who would stay in such a situation.

Thus, they see their jobs as representatives and rescuers of deluded and/or oppressed women. They try to create awareness about the evils. They counsel women who they believe are trapped in the prison of a traditional biblical home.

(You think we are exaggerating, but we know personally men who have had their wives counseled in exactly this way, behind their backs, by feminist pastors like Sam Powell, as well as by the sorts of women who congregate around discernment bloggers/outrage millers like Christine Pack.)

Do you see the misogyny? These people despise traditional femininity so much that they think any woman who chooses that way of life is an oppressed idiot.

People like this fancy styling themselves as researchers, rescuers, and sometimes whistleblowers.

But what they really are is crusaders for the enemy.

They slander and insult women who happily choose traditional biblical marriage.

They teach that traditional biblical marriage makes women into idolaters.

They encourage women to divorce their husbands.

They are angry home-wreckers who project their own misery onto others, and manipulate women going through often very difficult times.

They are gaslighters who externalize their misogyny towards any woman who chooses traditional biblical marriage.

Women aren’t deluded dreamy children. They are made in the image of God and can think for themselves, just like men.

Consider the rhetoric of “ministries” like Examining Doug Wilson & Moscow, Idaho, who recently came after us (not for the first time). This kind of foolish talk could easily drive an unstable people to justify doing horrible things, because they were “saving” someone from the oppressive patriarchy.

Their comment threads are vile, full of lying, slandering, and attempted home-wrecking. Warn your friends about these haters of femininity.

Here are a few rules of thumb to help you spot feminist crusaders. These are just rough heuristics, but they represent behavioral patterns we have seen repeatedly (remember, wisdom is pattern recognition):

  • Psycho-analysis: Feminist crusaders will launch into detailed and confident just-so stories about someone’s motives, based on nothing but a small sampling of their words.
  • “So you’re saying that…” (aka the Cathy Newman Strategy): any effort to explain the Bible’s teaching on gendered piety will be reframed as something horrible and obviously false. E.g., if you say, “Peter tells us that it is commendable for any Christian to suffer for doing good, since this is following the pattern of Christ, who suffered unjustly for our sake. This would even apply to wives married to difficult husbands.” Retort: “So you think men should treat their wives like the soldiers who crucified Jesus.” (Yes this is an actual example.)
  • “This is so scary:” Feminist crusaders (of both sexes) will routinely engage in hysterical fantasies about men who uphold patriarchal values, saying things like, “Someone needs to check on this man’s wife and children,” “This person needs to be turned into the police,” or “These radical patriarchists have a deep sickness in their soul—pity their wives and daughters.” (Again, yes, these are actual quotes.)
  • “You’ve been exposed:” After having the biblical evidence for gendered piety explained to them, feminist crusaders will frequently reply with statements like, “I was looking for you to expose yourself, and oh boy, you have done that,” rather than interacting with what you have said. This is an easy way to identify them as crusaders: they have rejected a priori the plain teaching of Scripture, so when you uphold it, they almost can’t believe that you would openly do such a wicked thing.
  • Projection: Always ask yourself whether what a suspected crusader is accusing you of, is actually what they are doing right now. This is an almost infallible guide: it is hard to find any example of a crusader who does not do this. Consider the comical example of Todd Pruitt chiming in a tweet from R. Scott Clark to say that, “The patriarchists are possessed of a pseudo-manhood that demands constant affirmation and exercises constant assertion.”

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