Week 52 in the year of our Lord 2021

Happy King’s Birthday

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We Christians share everything except our wives, you pagans share nothing but yours. —Tertullian, Apologeticum, AD 197

Bnonn received a copy of our book last week. His oldest son, Miles, was very impressed. While he was inspecting it, Bnonn told him to turn to the dedication and read it. Huge grins proceeded forthwith.

The dedication page of our book

Lockie, the youngest, then wasted no time investigating the wisdom of his father. He only has 15 years to start digesting and implementing what he learns, after all.

Lockie reading It’s Good To Be A Man

We have a new website up for the book, so if you’d like to learn more about it, and buy it either via Canon or Amazon, in hardback or Kindle, check it out:

Go to the book website

(Btw, if you buy the hardcover, be aware that supply chain problems are causing delivery delays.)

Here’s a great review we lifted from Amazon. This guy picked up what we were laying down:

A Systematic Theology for Manhood

This book is is a well-written and timely study on what it means to be a man from a Biblical perspective, particularly in light of modern society’s disdain for Christian principles and the roles that God designed for men (and women) ever since He placed mankind in the Garden of Eden. The book starts with a broad overview of what those roles are, how they were affected by the Fall, how Satan has obfuscated them, and the temptations that are common to all men. It contrasts varying, worldly views of gender/sex, and the natural voids that follow when deviating from our created design (and the men that try to fill them with advice from various sources from PUA’s to Joe Rogan and other secular influences often attempting to replace absent fathers). It details how the wrong influences have affected and imbalanced the modern church. It mentions how these imbalances have affected the pursuit of marriage. And finally, it prods the reader to make realistic goals and plans and walk in the common calling that God has given to every man as they plot their own course in life. It is not meant to be an exhaustive reference or a formulaic self-help book. It is not meant to be a steroid injection to your brain. But it is a systematic approach to Biblical manhood that connected a lot of dots in my own studies, after reading such other books as “No More Christian Nice Guy,” “Raising Men,” and a number of secular influences that seemed to get some things right but contrasted with the “Gentle Jesus, Meek and Mild” mentality that has pervaded the modern church. Go read your Bible, lift some weights, and get this book.

‪The infant Christ survived Herod’s plot to kill him because Joseph was a good dad full of faith (see Mt 2:14). ‬

‪We are right to honor Mary when we consider the “Christmas Story.” ‬She was a godly young woman.

‪But don’t forget Joseph. God honored fatherhood by entrusting the protection of His son to Joseph.

Many gifted ministers—indeed, many gifted men in general—have been hamstrung by their envy. Hate envy. Celebrate the victories of the body you are part of, whether the body of Christ, the body of your nation, the body of your company, the body of your household.

From Tyrannus Hall: #

I have a question Bnonn. I just walked through Chapter 1 of your book, which is excellent, and also re-read Is Patriarchy a Curse of the Fall?. Question: is it possible that Gen 3:16, “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you” could be read as “and he will rule (badly) over you”? If this phrase was just an oblique reference to the way things already are, it would hardly be a curse.

Two things are primarily in view here:

  1. The key issue is Eve’s desire, which is a grasping desire. The curse is giving Eve over to the pattern she played out by presuming to take the fruit, and give it to Adam to eat.
  2. In light of that desire, there is a curse which is also (as so often is the case), a kind of blessing: Adam will still rule over her. Her desire will not unseat him; God will uphold the creational design. Yet because of her sin, it will feel like a curse. Note that this doesn’t mean it will feel like a curse, but not actually be one. Rather, Eve is cursed with this desire, which is going to be thwarted by the blessing of God upholding patriarchy, and thus feel even more like a curse. (There is actually a blessing in each of the curses: the serpent’s curse comes with a blessing on Eve, through the promise of her seed; Eve’s curse brings a blessing on Adam, and indirectly herself, through his rulership being maintained; and even Adam’s curse brings the blessing of continued life and bread, in the midst of toil and death.)

It is not wrong to see Adam’s rulership being corrupted in the fall. Obviously it was—that is what sin does. But it is not corrupted as part of the curse on Eve. That doesn’t seem to be what the curse language is saying. You have to import that to the text, rather than read it out.

These kinds of discussions occur all the time in the hall. You’re welcome to join us.

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Bnonn & Michael

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