Why men naturally avoid responsibility
In our last email, we broke down a kind of chain of connections:
The moral ailment that leads to nice guy syndrome is neediness;
Neediness is a product of having an overly external locus of control;
An external locus of control is what happens when you refuse to take responsibility for yourself.
This leads us to a deep question we must answer as we live in repentance of being nice guys:
Why do men so naturally resist taking responsibility?
This isn’t just a failing of nice guys. Rather, unwillingness to take responsibility naturally affects men in general — and nice guys are one result of this failure.
Consider how you see the same lack of responsibility in people reacting against being nice guys — they will stop being approval-seeking, even becoming quite disagreeable…yet continue to avoid taking the blame for anything.
Same thing with the hyper-patriarchalists. They will react against servant leadership by becoming Barney Fifes who insist on authority…without the accompanying responsibility.
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