Week 15 in the year of our Lord 2022

Fatherhood & provision

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Fatherhood is at the heart of the gospel

God the Father sends His Son to deliver us.

We need deliverance because we are born sons of disobedience and children of wrath. Like the Jews in John 8:44, we are sons of the devil.

Christ delivers us from this family of destruction and brings us into the family of God.

Belonging to God’s family radically reorganizes and reorients every area of our life.

Instead of having the spirit of slavery, we have received the spirit of adoption as sons—by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!”

Instead of addressing God as some distant deity, we now pray to Him by saying, “Our Father who art in heaven.”

Instead of being under God’s wrath, we now are under His Fatherly discipline.

We are being conformed to the image of God’s Son, and we have a heavenly inheritance.

Fatherhood is at the heart of the gospel.

Providing for your parents #

A key obligations of fatherhood is providing for those under you. As we argue in our book, one of the three chief masculine duties is building and supplying.

Usually this means providing for your children—but as you age, the people who fall under your care will change.

For instance, if your mother is widowed and needs care, it falls to you to provide for her basic needs.

You honor her position by taking care of her physically. Honor here isn’t just thoughts and prayers or "warm words of respect. It is a practical show of godliness. “Be warm, be filled,” is of no value unless you actually warm and fill (James 2:16).

Paul says children must provide for their parents to make some return to them (1 Timothy 5:3–4).

Our parents pour into us, just as we pour money, time, and endless mental energy into our own children.

We invest into them. They are the future of our family. They are representatives of our family name, or our family values, prepped to carry on our legacy after we go to be with our Father.

Mothers suffer through carrying a baby, delivering a baby, nursing a baby at all hours, changing countless diapers, cleaning up buckets of vomit—even using the restroom as a toddler stares at them.

And that’s just the first two years.

Fathers work their hands raw. They work overtime. They get second jobs if need be. They grab the gun or the baseball bat to see what that bump was in the night. They work hard to maintain the house, to fix that faucet or this broken lock.

All to give clothing, protection, and open the doors of opportunity for their children.

Parenthood is hard. It is a costly investment. We pour our very life into our children. We all would die for them in a moment.

‪Children are a source of immense joy.‬ We recommend them!

‪But you must raise them to fear God, or they will become a source of immense pain.

One of those immense pains can be when children abandon their aging parents. It is right and proper that children and grandchildren give their parents and grandparents some return on their investment. It is their natural duty to honor them by caring for them in their old age—just as they cared for you in your youth.

This is why 1 Timothy 5:8, Paul says, “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

Even the pagans, who don’t know God, know to care for their own. (Although as paganism reaches its natural end, this happens less and less; cf. Romans 1:30 and parents dumped in old age homes.)

But, you Christian, know that God has a special concern for the widow and the orphan. You know how to model his Fatherhood. After all, He has by the blood of His son adopted you into His family. Fatherhood is at the heart of the gospel, after all.

And because Fatherhood is at the heart of the gospel, a Christian who refuses to love his own relatives is functionally denying the faith. He is worse than an unbeliever.

You are the first line of provision and care for your family. It should not fall to the church or the state.

Some pointers on false teachers #

The Bible warns often of false teachers. They are no less prevalent in our day. In fact, the rampant confusion and poor education of our day is a fertile feeding ground for such men.

Here are some things to consider:

  1. False teachers aren’t merely wrong, they’re carefully wrong.
  2. False teachers aren’t content to simply have false ideas. They must spread them. That’s why they are false teachers.
  3. False teachers usually prefer informal positions—taking on the roles of trusted advisors rather than official teachers. It allows for influence without accountability.
  4. False teachers are often very driven. It takes effort to not only rebel against God’s Word, but to teach others to do the same. Because of their drive, many aspects of their life will be appealing.
  5. False teachers are perpetual rebranders. They get caught. They rebrand. They get caught. They rebrand again. This is because they are false—repentance isn’t in their wheelhouse.
  6. False teachers don’t gain influence by being obvious. Hence, another name for them is “mostly true teachers.” Therein lies the danger.
  7. False teachers can only become successful because many people want to believe falsehoods. They liked to have their ears scratched.

What do you lose if someone just stays wrong? What do you gain by continuing to engage?

Notable: #

The Imaginative Conservative has posted a really helpful review of our book. Thanks Louis Markos:

Reading It’s Good to Be a Man is like bathing in a cold stream. It is fresh and bracing, but it stings and burns. And yet, the church needs that stinging and burning if it is to replace niceness with faithfulness and a desire to please with a passion to transform.

Read the whole thing: “Rehabilitating Masculinity” »

One of the great blessings on our ministry (for us) is not just the kind words we receive from men about our work, but the testimonials of how it has affected them. Here is a recent example:
A man who didn’t expect to like our book finds it encouraging and challenging
If you haven’t got a copy of the book, our website lists all the formats and locations that we know of where you can purchase it.

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Talk again next week,

Bnonn & Michael

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